By understanding how the past shaped the present which, in turn shapes the future, we become empowered to break tired cycles that no longer serve us and start pursuing elements that do. This week, we examined the inward transformation to help facilitate nudging your relationship into a partnership. Then we examined the energy that helps direct the relationship towards a happy commitment. Today, we spend a few moments in the future, taking in the fruits of our labor.
Today’s Lenormand reading is for you.
Your end-of-week retrospective reading:
Card 1: Birds
Card 2: Stork
You’ve controlled your emotions and successfully prevented dragging the relationship down with negative energy. You’ve nurtured the relationship like you would nurture a child. You invested in it. Planned for it. You diligently protected it. You’ve also given it the space it needed to expand itself into something encompassing, beautiful, and sustainable. Under your loving watch, it grew.
Now it is time to bask in the glow of love as your immature romance developed into a lifelong partnership. Congratulations. Can you feel the electricity in the air? Your heart’s speed increase?
It’s okay to be excited about a future full of love. To be excited about of a future of being well loved. Of loving well. Of reciprocity. Of companionship. In today’s Lenormand reading, we’re met with the cards Bird and Stork, which represent excitement and change.
It’s a call to remind ourselves on some days, especially Fridays, it’s okay to invite a little whimsy into our lives. It’s healthy to daydream about a future in which we’re happy and have found partners. It’s okay to remind ourselves what exactly we’re working towards.
So go ahead. Sit back. Kick your feet up. Close your eyes. And just dream.
Some spirits do double duty. They’re there not only to represent their loved one who has crossed over but to acknowledge the presence of other spirits who can’t speak for themselves: babies and animals. This was the case with ‘Bert.
When I first sensed ‘Bert’s presence, he immediately displayed himself as holding a very tiny baby swaddled in a white blanket and shared the words “Ok” and “Healthy.” His priority, even in the afterlife, was to ensure his loved ones had reassurance that their precious child was okay, healthy, and with family. This was the type of man ‘Bert still is.
Bert’s real first name sounds like Albert or Delbert and he appeared as an uniformed officer: olive green and pressed khaki pants. He had white hair, wore a fine mustache, glasses, and appeared to be in his 70’s when he passed.
He gives me a peek into his life as a young man with a family in the Midwest (Wisconsin?). That moment he comes home to his wife while she hangs laundry to dry on the clothes line. Their son playing with his red toy truck or car in the background. Happy memories.
Then he shares his experience towards the end of his time in his aging body. He was having trouble getting around. An unsteadiness on his feet that his loved ones noticed despite his attempts to conceal it. A natural decline to punctuate his time on earth. He transitioned into spirit due to pneumonia. He left behind his wife and family.
There’s a hesitation in reference to his wife. A separation there. I am supposed to acknowledge that since his passing, his wife has found companionship. I am also supposed to acknowledge that so long as she’s happy, he’s at peace with it. He knows he can’t be there in the way she needs.
He said that he isn’t too involved in the day-to-day affairs of his wife, child(ren?), and grandchildren. They’re all doing just fine. He watches them from afar, beaming with pride.
This week is all about the kind of love Etta James sang about when she crooned, “At Last”:
At last my love has come along
My lonely days are over and life is like a song, oh yeah
At last the skies above are blue
My heart was wrapped up clover the night I looked at you
On Monday, we examined what it takes to evolve a relationship into a partnership and we learned that the focusing on being someone you would want to marry is key: interesting, compassionate, kind, forgiving, encouraging, and inspiring. It isn’t enough to fall in love once, a decade ago. Relationships take investment every day.
Today we examine the energy that can help carry your relationship from “significant other” to “committed” in the definition you want for your relationship.
Today’s Oracle reading is for you.
Your mid-week Oracle reading:
Past: Man Holding a Heart
Present: The Thinking Woman
Future: First Chakra, Archangel Michael
Unsurprisingly, our love reading starts with Man Holding a Heart in the past position, because this is where our love story begins: with someone holding our hearts. Love is action. It’s a verb. Where you spend your actions, your thoughts, and your intentions is where your energy gathers momentum.
Those who struggle with trusting their partner, who spend time criticizing their partner, or who discourage their partner will grow emotions of dislike, loathing, fear, and secrets. By trusting your partner, cheering your partner’s successes, and encouraging your partner’s willingness to try despite failures, you’re growing the momentum of energy in your relationship towards feelings like happiness, support, reliance, and shared intimacy. In other words, how you spend your energy within a relationship will create energy to pull your relationship towards that direction.
You’ve invested love, kindness, and excitement into the relationship which brings us to the Thinking Woman in the present position. There are times for action and there are times for understanding. The Thinking Woman represents the latter. She sees how wonderful her relationship is, knows it has potential to evolve into something more, and is weighing her options on how to get there. The Thinking Woman is a card of retrospection and thoughtfulness. She is drawing energy into the relationship to fundamentally ensure that she and her beloved make it to safe and tranquil waters.
It’s still a gamble. There’s no guarantee she’ll make it. Yet the promise the future holds is worth risking the choppy waters. The Thinking Woman is a card that asks you to evaluate how you are spending energy in your relationship. Are you growing momentum in the areas that will lead to commitment or are you growing momentum in the areas that will ultimately lead to heartache?
When you spend time acting and thinking about a certain outcome, you draw energy towards that outcome, making it even more likely. In this case, the Thinking Woman is spending time infusing her relationship with the kind of emotions and commitment she wants to get out of the relationship. Ultimately, this takes her to the future card as represented by the First Chakra, Archangel Michael.
The First Chakra card is symbolic of being rooted or anchored in security. It’s attachment that helps stabilize us and keeps of anchored. If we invest the right kind of energies into our relationship keeping the outcome we desire in mind, we can manifest the realities we seek. We can find our security and safety in the First Chakra.
Death is only terrifying for the living. For those in Spirit – the process is well organized, thoughtful, respectful, peaceful, and full of love. In this week’s Interview with Spirit, my cousin has returned for another enjoyable and educational discussion. This time, we ask what death is like for the dying.
As always, the questions were predetermined. My mother and I channeled the same spirit separately, asked the same questions separately, and were given the same answers separately. Later, we compared our notes from our Interview with Spirit.
Question: When someone is in a coma, are they “trapped” in there until they pass?
Answer: Spirits cannot be trapped within a body. They’re free to get up and roam around. They just cannot fully transition into Spirit while they’re still attached to their body however they’re not imprisoned by it.
Question: What is death like?
Answer: Death was just like going to sleep and then waking up like you normally do but this time you’re in Spirit and it feels a little different. A few people are there to meet you and then they take you into the next room and everyone is there to say, “hey.” There’s so much love. You feel less restricted because you don’t have the energy of your spirit stuffed into a body. You can just sort of spread out.
Question: What happens when you die?
Answer: You have friends or family and your guides there when your soul first leaves your body. Then, you spend the next little while in just reunions and gatherings and visiting with people you hadn’t met, people you had met, and people you know from your past lives. Then you go to this sort of waiting room while you shed some of the earthly stuff you don’t need to take with you until you cross into the light. Then you’ve crossed over. Next you have your life review which can take a little while. After that, there’s classes you can take, and you sort of live out your life until you’re ready to come back again.
Question: Does everyone go to the same place?
Answer: Yes but there are levels and spirits are grouped by the energy at which they vibrate. So people who were a little more rough in this life will be grouped with others at a lower vibration. Most of us, though, are grouped with each other at this vibration. And then you have the ascended spirits at a higher vibration. That’s where the guides hang out.
Question: Did you attend your own funeral?
Answer: Sure do. How else will I know how everyone really felt about me? [laugh] The nicest things get said and it’s nice to see how people have dressed you and the things they’ve chosen for you.
In the beginning, all love begins as immature love, in which two or more people come together and figure out how to love themselves and each other within the context of a new relationship. Sometimes, love never evolves, and fizzles. These affairs of the heart are like fireworks that explode into the night sky, beautiful and intense, before falling to ashes leaving only bittersweet memories. However, some affairs of the heart become stars when they ignite in the sky.
Today’s Weekly Tarot Forecast is for you.
Your weekly Tarot Forecast:
Past: Page of Cups
Present: The Sun
Future: Four of Wands
Advice: Queen of Wands
Some relationships are just not meant to survive indefinitely. They begin and end with the Page of Cups never fully gaining momentum beyond the innocent and fresh new love phase. This is okay. Not all relationships should transform into partnerships. Some relationships are simply best in short, delicious bites like desserts. Some relationships have the energy and the dedication it takes to evolve from a fleeting tryst to a long-term partnership.
What kind of relationship do you have? What kind of relationship do you want? Are you on the road to get there or has your path diverted towards an unknown outcome? As a Tarot reader and psychic, I’m often asked for relationship advice because the desire to continue growing with the one you love is a common question a lot of people ask at some point.
The key to a successful long-term partnership is to understand that the Page of Cups isn’t sustainable. Ultimately, it’s kind of nice being with someone who knows your mom’s secret cold remedy for when you’re feeling under the weather. It’s delightful being with someone who knows how you make your coffee. It’s sublime to just exist with your lover. In a long-term partnership, the Page of Cups abandons chasing the feeling of falling in love to experiencing the existence of being in love as represented by the Sun.
At this point, a lot of relationships aren’t sure where to go from here, because the type of excitement you receive in being in a long-term relationship is different than the roller coaster ride of falling in love. Because having known someone doesn’t always give lovers the freedom to continue growing as independent spirits. Because growing as independent spirits sometimes means growing apart. Because, it is at this point, that the mundane grind of daily events, lack of money, and lack of freedom wear down a relationship at its weakest points.
So how does one transition from the enjoyment under the Sun and into the celebration of unity as expressed by the Four of Wands? Through the Queen of Wands.
The advice is to be the person you want to fall in love with every day. Be kind. Be compassionate. Inspire. Love. Be loved. Don’t take for granted and don’t be taken for granted. Don’t allow the daily grind to wear down your love for each other and don’t allow it to make you dull. Find new ways to grow independently and with each other. Prioritize your love for each other over your occasional unhappiness with the temporary circumstances you find yourselves in.
If you’ve been following along in my Psychic 101 series, you’ve already discovered the first three steps you need to understand in order to tap into your psychic ability. This post is going to be the fourth.
Everything is energy. I’m energy. You’re energy. The little olive tree growing in my office is energy. My house is powered by energy. I use energy to type this out. My six dogs have loads of energy. The cornerstone of using one’s psychic abilities is the ability to sense the energy they’re seeking. As a spiritual and physical psychic medium, the vast majority of my experience is limited to sensing the energy of Spirit. However, energy is energy which means there are some common themes in the sensation of energy.
Inherent in learning to control one’s gift is this implicit idea of usage. What’s the point of all of this when I can’t turn my gift “on” and use it? Using your gift to understand and tap into energy requires you to be able to perceive that energy.
You’re most natural way to sense energy is going to be dependent on the particular clairs you favor. For example, if you’re Clairgustant then energy might come in the form of a metallic taste. If you’re Clairaudient then you might be able to tune into your surroundings and hear the currents of energy (when my phone charger is plugged in, I can hear the buzz of connectivity). If you’re Clairvoyant then you might see waves of energy (like heat waves) disrupt the space around you. If you’re Clairsentient, you might feel the hairs on the back of your neck stand on end or the subtle drop in temperature.
Exercise 1: Sense Energies
Go through the list of clairs and “check in” with yourself to make sure you understand your current state. For example: asking yourself how your mouth currently tastes will help you identify a subtle change in taste if you experience a energy through taste.
Breathe deeply. Hold. Set your intention to clear your thoughts. Release them as you exhale. Repeat until you find yourself centered in the moment and to your environment.
Set your intention to tune in to your environment and ask your spirit guides to help you sense energies
Select the type of energy source you want to sense and go through the list of Clairs asking if you notice any differences since you checked in with yourself
If you’re trying to sense Spirit then you will need to invite Spirit in. Start by inviting in a loved one who passed awhile ago. Explain to them what you’re trying to do. Invite them to give you a sensation to let you know they are present.
Rinse and repeat as often as you can throughout your day, your week, and your month. Always anchor yourself to your environment, evaluate how you feel, and then open yourself to sensing the energy.
In this exercise, there is no judgment or evaluation, you’re just trying to determine what you naturally perceive using your psychic gifts. This can be with your eyes open or closed.
Have fun with it! Does the energy in your remote feel different than the energy in your phone? What about the energy in your pet? Run your hand over blades of grass and see if you can sense energy. Hover your hands above loved ones and get a feeling for their energies. Even rocks and gems have their own energies! If you follow my Instagram account, you’ll frequently see the use of gemwork in my readings because I channel the energies of my stones to help strengthen both my connection and my Clair experiences.
Eventually, you will start being able to sense energies. It’s okay if you can’t sense all energies of all the things. To be quite frank: that sounds exhausting. However, focus on the energies to which you would specifically like to connect. You also may not be able to sense energies immediately so please don’t allow yourself to become discouraged. I promise it gets easier.
Exercise 2: Learn to pair energies with identification
Once you learn to sense energies, you can start learning to pair energies with their type and even distinguish energies among the same types things. For example, your cell phone and your laptop are both electronic devices, yet if you tune in to each energy then you can distinguish the subtle differences between them. Similarly, making a physical connection with Spirit feels entirely different than making a spiritual connection with Spirit.
I have six – yes six – large breed dogs that like to roam in our rural fenced in yard. Each of my dogs has a distinctive energy signature that allows me to know which one of my fury familiars has entered the room to lay at my feet without me looking up.
With enough exposure to energies, you will also be able to identify who walks into the room without looking, even if they’re in Spirit!
With this exercise start testing yourself until you can easily, quickly, and correctly identify the energies you wish to perceive. This test works best with your eyes closed but you can also enlist the help of a friend. You can use a basket full of electronics that are turned on/active. You can use this by having friends stand in front of you while you sense their energies. Can you picture the thing you’re sensing in your mind’s eye? Can you hear the thing you’re sensing? Can you feel the thing you’re sensing? Can you taste it? Immerse yourself in the experience of these energies.
Don’t forget to invite your Spirit Guides into this exercise. Allow them to give you ideas. They’re experts in you and helping you grow your abilities.
Exercise 3: Learn to pair energies with understanding
Once you learn how to identify what by sensing the energy, you need to start practicing perceiving the health of that energy. For my technical mediums, this will help you identify any blockages in the currents. For my empaths, this will help you identify the emotions bombarding you (is this a happy emotion and that’s why I’m feeling anxious? is this a sad emotion and that’s why I’m feeling drained? For my physical mediums, this will help you identify areas of pain on someone’s body so that way you can offer the proper treatments.
For this exercise – you will need to work with your knowledge of the energy you’re reading.
For example: if you’re reading your mom, have her mentally identify where she’s aching, close your eyes and just connect with her energy to identify those pain points. You can try physically holding hands with her. You can try hovering your hand over her.
Similarly, if you’re reading your electronic devices, now would be a good time to tax your systems with a heavy energy load to see what that feels like.
What does a happy, healthy energy feel like? What does a blocked energy feel like?
Exercise 4: Now take it on the road
Finally, it is time to combine all of these exercises into one and immerse yourself in a new environment with new things you haven’t sensed. Put your abilities to the test by sitting in a food court and allowing the energies of others wash over you. Stand in the technology section or electronics section and start sensing. Be among nature, close your eyes, and just sense.
You will soon start identifying the same states of health in others that you identified in your mother, in your overtaxed gaming computer, and so forth. You will realize that you don’t have to know a person to know a person. One’s unique energy is expressed in ways that you can perceive.
This will help protect you as you advance your gifts. Eventually, you’ll be able to identify energies that are negative or harmful and quickly avoid them without first getting hurt or drained by them.
One final note:
Connecting with energy is draining.
Remember to stay hydrated (water is an excellent conductor for energy).
Remember to stay fueled with high vibrational foods like fruit and vegetables.
This is Part 4 in my Psychic 101 Series. The purpose of this series is to help you discover your psychic abilities, learn how to control your psychic abilities, and how you can master them.
Growth can be painful. We even have a phrase to describe it: growing pains. Sometimes this means shedding people, behavior, attitudes, and attachments that either no longer serve your highest good or, worse, are counterproductive for your highest good. The road less traveled, as we learned in Monday’s Encouragement message, isn’t always easy because not everyone understands why you feel compelled to take the riskier, more dangerous, less reliable route at this point in time. Not everyone is on the same development schedule.
The Star card talks about you following your own path to becoming the most authentic person to serve your highest good. As you evolve and transform into the person you were meant to be, those who love you enough to support your growth aren’t going anywhere. They will champion you. They will be excited to learn about who you are on the path to becoming. You also become an inspiration to those around you who needed the incentive, the desire, and the curiosity to follow their own bliss. Transformation is contagious.
The energy you’re utilizing will attract those who want to help you co-create the future you seek; the energy you’re utilizing will repel those who want to hurt the future you seek. This may mean that there could be unexpected changes to your friends and family. Not all of those changes may be good. However, it’s important to note that Home is what you make it. It is filled with those who bring you pleasure, those you fulfill, and the memories you choose to make together.
When you follow your dreams, you find your family.
Regardless of what caused one’s transition into spirit, almost all spirits have the same message they want to communicate to their friends and family: “I am OK.” Transitioning – or returning to Spirit – isn’t the same thing as leaving us although it feels that way. In last Tuesday’s interview with Spirit, we learned that spirits occupy the same space we do but in an alternate dimension with a barrier they can cross. Spirits love to be among the loved ones they’ve left behind and are constantly trying to get our attention and acknowledgement. This was the case with the high school athlete named Ty.
When we first spoke, one of the words that kept coming through was “Ty,” “Thai,”, or “Tie.” Without a better name to call him, I settled on Ty, and felt something click with the word as a name. Here on out, I will be referring to our young athlete as Ty however his family should pay attention to the other pieces of evidence understanding that the name I call him may be wrong (although he doesn’t seem to mind).
Some loved ones and family members now struggle with their newfound identifies: am I still a sister to a big brother has passed? To how many children am I a parent?
Ty identifies himself as many things: a friend, a brother, a son, an athlete, and a student. He would like me to acknowledge that he still remains these things. If he was your friend while he was having a human experience, he remains your friend today even though he now exists in spirit. If he was your brother while he was we having a human experience, he remains your brother today even though he now exists in spirit. If he was your son while he was having a human experience, he is still your son today even though he now exists in spirit. He also remains in school although the nature of his learning has changed. He still plays American football although the nature of the sport and his opponents are slightly different now.
He wants me to acknowledge how he passed. He shows himself in a football uniform, I believe a practice uniform, and he was feeling dizzy, overheated, and lethargic. He was hit and could not recover. I am supposed to acknowledge that it was heat exhaustion that triggered his transition into spirit. His heart could not handle the strain.
I am supposed to acknowledge those he should have graduated with who are now going off to college. “Cool,” he said. I’m also supposed to acknowledge a desire to be an architect or engineer. I am seeing blueprints, designs, calculators, and business casual clothing. He did not indicate if this meant he dreamed of becoming an engineer or if I’m supposed to acknowledge a loved one who should/will pursue engineering.
To his mom, two sisters, girlfriend, and friends: I am OK. I love you. I miss you.
You made the commitment to yourself to prioritize you. You may not have known it at that time but this is what led you to this place. You were tired of coming last in your own life. If your life were a play, you would have been secondary character who holds the umbrella. Now, you find yourself on the road less traveled, isolating people whom you’ve outgrown, and dare I say anticipating the future… How on earth did you get here? Let’s take a look at the energy that brought you here and where it’ll lead.
Your Wednesday Energy Reading:
Past: Door to Personal Healing and Happiness
Present: Second Chakra, Archangel Ariel
Future: The Thinking Woman
Changing the energy that informs and guides the outcome of a situation may seem mystical in nature but it does not require donning a white beard and pointy hat. In fact, when you entered through the Door to Personal Healing and Happiness, you fundamentally set into motion a counter current of energy to help you manifest what would aid in your healing and happiness. It may have been something as simple as skipping fast food for lunch and opting for something lighter and more healthy. It may have been something as simple as realizing that you are, in fact, a true badass.
Suddenly, with that single action or thought, you opened up a new set of possible outcomes. Swapping the burger out for the salad today may inspire you to start making your own salads more often which could lead to weight loss, longevity, better moods, and better mental health that you may not have otherwise encountered if not for that single decision of, “Hey, they salad looks pretty good. I’ll try it.” Similarly, realizing that you’re pretty awesome may result in you accepting challenges that you wouldn’t have otherwise considered and this could lead to promotions, more recognition, and more self-confidence.
That single action or thought introduced a counter current with the potential to completely alter the outcome of the road you were on. This is how powerful you are. Your thoughts have power because they harness the energy all around you. That pull of energy – walking through that door to a healthier you – has led you to where you are today: on the road less traveled. While we know the likely outcome of your current path, the obstacles you may encounter along the way, we have yet to explore the current energies manifesting around you as you traverse your new path and where those energies are likely to take you.
In today’s Oracle reading, we find ourselves in the present, represented by the Second Chakra, Archangel Ariel, known for inspiring creativity and confidence in one’s self. Taking care of yourself is an investment in you. It’s an investment in your ability to be a co-creator alongside Spirit for your best and possible highest good. It’s signaling to the universe that you recognize, if even only a fraction, your own power. This makes the Second Charka card is a powerful energy card to see in the present because the moment we recognize we’re powerful, we become unstoppable. The moment we realize that our thoughts can change the outcome of something, we start developing our thoughts to create the outcomes we want. Our power turns into the energy we need to manifest the future we desire. In this situation, the energy current you’re riding will lead to the Thinking Woman.
The Thinking Woman is a renaissance woman who faces fear with logic and intuition. Who is courageously open to the unknown. Who takes big risks to gain the big rewards we would otherwise only fantasize about. The Thinking Woman is someone who goes enough places, does enough things, and sees enough miracles to write best selling memoirs. You are sitting atop all of the energy you need to make all of your dreams come true. All you need to do is harness it.
And to think that all of it started with that decision to prioritize your wellness and happiness because that gave you the courage and curiosity to walk the road less traveled.
Last week, my mother and I channeled a loved one separately to ask the same series of questions that we frequently receive as psychic mediums. We’re back this week with a different loved one and a different set of questions!
For today’s interview, we opted to channel my second cousin, who is now in Spirit.
Every question asked was answered. After comparing notes, we found that each of our answers matched in both content but also pauses and hesitations.
Here are the Questions and Answers from our sessions with our cousin:
Question: Are there chores in the afterlife?
Answer: There can be if you want them. I like to keep my place tidy, garden, and dust for company but you don’t have to do these things if you do not want to. But what else am I going to do with my time? Chores can also be used for personal growth.
Question: Is there a heaven above us?
Answer: The afterlife is all around us. We occupy the same areas but in a different “pocket.”
Question: Is it evil to contact the deceased?
Answer: [laughter] Not unless you want it to be. You can use it for bad or good.
Question: Can you smoke, drink, and do drugs in the afterlife?
Answer: You can if you want. I occasionally drink see no need for that other stuff.
Question: Is there a “correct” religion?
Answer: [laughter] No and everyone can choose their beliefs.
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