Psychic 101: Learning how to control your gift

It doesn’t matter how your psychic abilities manifest themselves (the type of medium you are and the tools you use to express that mediumship). The basic rules for connecting with your abilities, connecting with the specific type of energy you’re inclined to use, and learning how to control your abilities follow a similar path.

Last week, I wrote that everyone has an innate “psychic” ability and that, at its core, psychic ability is simply the ability to connect with energy on a psychic level. Some connect with the pain felt by others, some connect with the imprints energy leaves behind on objects and places. Some connect with the energy culminating into future events. Some connect with the energy used to create music, the energy comprised in spirit, or the energy used in the ingredients to prepare the right meal for the right occasion. This list is endless because energy is endless. It is all around us and exercising one’s inherent psychic ability is merely learning how to access and channel that energy.

However, without learning to control our abilities or to develop them, harnessing the power inherent in them can feel like trying to capture lightning in a bottle. It can feel scary, dangerous, exhilarating, unpredictable, and exciting. Failing to capture that lightening can leave us feeling disappointed which can even be a counterproductive energy.

Today, my goal is to provide you with an overview of the mechanisms for working with your spiritual team, how to create a space to channel energy properly, how to tune into energy, how to make yourself into a conduit to channel that energy, and how to hone your skills. In the upcoming weeks, we will explore each of these sections in depth with a single post devoted entirely to the subject.

Working with your Spiritual Team

We are all assigned a spiritual team to help guide us on our unique journeys. Some team members are assigned to you during your pre-birth planning. Some team members are loved ones who have joined after transitioning to Spirit again. These are your spirit guides and will be your best line of defense against unwanted psychic activity and your best advisers for exploring your abilities on a path designed specifically for you. Their entire purpose is to provide you with the resources and understanding you need for your highest good.

Not all psychic mediums choose to actively engage their spirit guides during this process. This is not an easier path but it is a viable path should you choose to go it alone.

If you do want the support and aid of spiritual experts then I recommend starting a dialog with them. Find a quiet place where you can remain undisturbed, grab your favorite tools for writing (whether it be electronically or with pen to paper), and just start a conversation.

This is the format I’ve chosen however you should use the format that speaks most naturally to you. You may even find the constraints of a written format to be too restrictive and find a natural inclination to write a song, create a video, incorporate it into a ritual, or even draw out a cartoon of the interaction. What’s important is that you ask for assistance, identify the assistance you want, create boundaries, and establish rules of engagement.

You may immediately feel the presence of your spiritual team or you may not sense their participation until you’re further along in the process. However, trust that the team has already committed to the goals and will rise to the occasion.

Start incorporating your guides into the following steps below and inviting them to influence your daily decisions for your highest good. Ask for their advice for which tools you should acquire, which exercises you should pursue, etc. The purpose is to recognize and engage in a working relationship with your spiritual team now that you’ve enlisted their help.

Calming your Mind

Calming your mind is an essential and important step in the process for two reasons. First, energy can be subtle especially when you start learning to work with your natural gifts and the expression of your natural psychic abilities. When a loved one in Spirit wishes to communicate, I usually feel a light dizzying sensation wash over me. If I’m too distracted by a TV show, music, friends, or even my own thoughts then I will inevitably miss opportunities to learn and engage with energy. How you sense energy may be entirely different and, with practice, you will can discover what that is if you don’t already know.

Calming your mind also allows you to amplify the connection between you and your spiritual team so that may guide you into opportunities for your highest good and warn you against opportunities that aren’t for your highest good. This is the perfect time to breathe deeply, clear your mind, and announce to your guides that you are open to receiving messages for your highest good.

In the beginning, you may not be able to perceive the messages they are delivering. It is okay to ask them to amplify the connection, be less subtle in their messaging, or obtain guidance on how it is best for you to receive your messages. This is about trial and error with the goal of finding what feels most natural because, ultimately, the most natural fit for you is the one that will work most effectively.

Eventually, the effort required to calm your mind will lower, you will be able to achieve a still mind much quicker, and you will be able to do so in the midst of distractions. You will be able to switch it on and off on demand. However, getting there takes practice.

Environmental Awareness and Mindfulness

When you enter into a new room or when new people enter your space, close your eyes, and connect to your environment through your senses.

This exercise will help train you to sense the different types of energies, teach you to identify what they mean, and it will also be one of the primary means of communication from Spirits.

If someone in your life is always having the worst day, has the worst attitude, and shares the worst ideas then learning how that energy manifests itself will help you identify the same traits in strangers. Similarly, if someone in your life is always finding the positive meaning in events, has an optimistic disposition, and has a compassionate and gentle energy then learning the type of energy frequencies they emits will allow you to identify similar traits in strangers. The same is true for energies of the past, present, and future. The same is true for atmospheric energy. The same is true for spiritual energy. The key is perceiving how these energies present themselves to you, what subtle changes you feel when they enter into your space, and the meaning behind him.

This will also allow you to receive messages from your spiritual team more effectively even in scenarios where your mind isn’t ideally calm. For example, you may perceive there’s an odd energy surrounding a detour traffic sign on your way to the store. Depending on the energy received, this may be a sign that it’s time for you to detour plans (if the entrance is blocked) or it may be a sign that opportunity awaits.

Similarly, many messages come in synchronicity. It may start subtly where you wake up at night to use the restroom and notice the clock is exactly 1:11 am. Weird. Then, in the midst of the chaos of the day, you just so happen to look at the time and it’s exactly 1:11 pm. Weirder. Later that day, as you’re driving down the road, you may see a business with the address 11 on 1st Street.

Our spirit guides will often influence our daily lives to make us notice things of importance. We look up from our phones at just the right time to see a billboard advertising a heating and cooling company just before our furnace dies that evening. We have this nagging feeling to go back and triple check that yes, we did turn off the stove only to discover that we left our grocery list or wallet on the counter.

When we make a habit of connecting with our environments more regularly, we allow ourselves to receive more guidance and warnings.

Raising your Vibration

Everything is made of energy. Everything. Energy emits vibrational waves (waves of heat energy, waves of sound, waves of light, etc). When hot air rapidly expands, that energy can create the rumble we identify as thunder. Have you ever felt thunder so intense that it rattled the windows? Have you ever saw waves of heat rising off the hot tarmac of a black road in the summer? Those are waves of heat energy. If you’ve ever watched a ghost hunting show and heard the terms, “EMF” or “EVP”, they’re all references to the measurement of certain types of energy.

Psychics tune into the energy and perceive the unique vibration of that energy. It’s important to remember that like attracts like. As a spiritual and psychic medium, when I want to connect with someone’s spirit, I have to raise my vibration because spirits operate at a higher level of vibration. By raising my vibration, I attract energies that emit high vibrational energy.

There are a variety of ways to raise your vibrations from drinking water (water is a conduit for energy), consuming foods according to their frequency, finding a meditation style that appeals to you (otherwise, you won’t want to do it), listening to high vibrational music, and engaging in high vibrational behavior like optimism, gratitude, excitement, and joy. Abstaining from lower vibrational behaviors, music, food, etc. will also help keep your vibrations high.

Practicing with Feedback

Finally, one of the most effective ways to practice your skill is by engaging in feedback-based exercises. The type of exercises you will need will be based on what pairs most naturally with the type of psychic medium you are (spiritual, physical, technological, culinary, music, etc.) and how those abilities are expressed (e.g. clairsentience, claircognizance, etc).

Musicians improve by playing music and hearing when notes are flat, are perfectly executed, or when beats are skipped. Artists improve over time by trying new techniques that achieve the results they’re pursuing. Teachers improve by looking for ways to raise students’ grades. All of these skills rely on feedback. Imagine if the musician couldn’t hear their music. How would they know they’re improving? Imagine if teachers had no way to gauge if their students are understanding the material.

In the future, I will be providing specific types of exercises that you can use for practice and as a template to model your own exercises. Here are a few ideas:

  • For Spiritual and Physical Mediums – find pictures of people with robust biographies and see if you can glean any information about the person form that picture. Are they still living or have they transitioned into Spirit? Were they married? What did they do for a living? If they died, at what age, how did they die, etc?
  • For Culinary Mediums – focus on the ingredients you have on hand. Can you remember the smell? The taste? The feel of the ingredients in your hands? Test yourself. Recall and then sample. What if you paired them with other ingredients? Can you taste a spice mixture and discern the order of the ingredients on the label?
  • For Technological Mediums – can you close your eyes, hover your hand over a device, and correctly identify the device in question? Can you anticipate the subtle impulses of the device beforehand? Connect with your device and then have a friend hide it within the same room. Test yourself. Can you find it?

Remember, the goal is to find a way to obtain feedback from your exercises, so you know which energies are the ones you’re looking for and how you tune into the expression of those energies.

This is Part 2 in my Psychic 101 Series. The purpose of this series is to help you discover your psychic abilities, learn how to control your psychic abilities, and how you can master them.

You can read Part 1 titled, “Psychic 101: I Think I’m Psychic – Now What?” here.

Weekly Forecast: The Gift of Balance

Life has felt like a struggle lately, hasn’t it? That feeling of being pulled a thousand ways all at once and, at the end of the day, there’s not enough left of you for you. There’s not enough time left for you to recharge. There’s not enough energy left for self-care. There’s simply not enough. There’s an imbalance in your life and it is wearing you down. You’re not sure how long you can sustain this pace. Yet, every day, you find yourself rising to the challenge. Because you’re a warrior. Because you’re a lover. Because you’re a saint.

Today’s Tarot reading is for you.

Your daily Tarot card reading:

Past: Two of Coins

Present: The Sun

Future: Queen of Swords

Outcome: Two of Swords



For you, the Two of Coins, acknowledges how hard you work for everyone else, and how little you do for you. The Two of Coins is a card for jugglers, for tightrope walkers, and the other agile unsung heroes that live life balancing the needs of everyone else against their own needs.

How often do you feel like your effort goes unnoticed? This card is the universe’s way of saying, “You’re not alone. I notice everything you do.” Being acknowledged for what you do for everyone else is important to feeling valued as a person and not merely as a delivery management system for solutions. And, unfortunately, when we nurture relationships in which we are always the solution, it sometimes leaves little time for us to also express wants, needs, and problems of our own. Remember: we teach people how we want to be treated. Are you satisfied with what you’re teaching those who depend on you?

There is nothing selfish about engaging in self-care, self-love, and self-protection. After all, if you don’t take care of you, you’re less likely to have the same level of energy in the future, you’re more likely to find yourself feeling under the weather, and you’re less likely to live in a state of contentment. As your fuel depletes, you’ll find yourself running on empty more often, and then what?

There’s also nothing selfish about communicating your needs, wants, and desires to your loved ones. They don’t bat an eye when it comes to asking you, why should you bat an eye asking them? You serve them because you love them. It’s time to allow others to show you how much they love you by serving you.

Expressing your needs, feelings, and desires to your loved one is a great reminder that you’re a spirit, too. Just like them. I know it frequently seems like you’re spirit by day and superhero by night but that isn’t fair to you, it’s not healthy for you, and it’s not sustainable with you.

It’s time to leave these habits that no longer serve you in the past and enter into a new phase of your life. Step out into the warm glow of The Sun.

There are several benefits of finding a healthier way to balance your needs against the needs of the world which means there are several reasons for you to start today.

  • You deserve harmony. Things are already too chaotic. Aim to make things simpler. Allowing other people to meet your needs, care for you, and protect you will improve the harmony in your relationships which will reduce conflict, tension, and disharmony.
  • It makes the world a better place. Everyone deserve to give and take. Everyone has needs to be satisfied and gifts to be given. By ensuring your personal relationships are more equally balanced, you’re teaching them the importance of balance, how to find balance in their relationships, and how to be mindful of the needs of others.
  • It reminds you of how spectacular and awesome you are. Sometimes it’s necessary to put yourselves first just because you need that reminder that we really are that important. When was the last time you romanced yourself with a candlelit bath? When was the last time you took care of yourself with your favorite decadent meal? When was the last time you spoiled you? You deserve it.

In this reading, the Sun is about saying yes to you. The message is designed to advise you on how to move forward into a new dawn. To step out into the sun and allow yourself to be warmed by the joys that life can bring. Not in excess but in balance and towards a greater balance because a life unbalanced leads to a future with the Queen of Swords.

The Queen of Swords is aptly named. Graceful, elegant, and absolutely beautiful. When the sun hits her just right, she casts light onto everything. However, there’s a darker side to the Queen of Swords. A sharper side. She is, after all, a sword. She can be used for self defense just as easily as she can be used as a weapon for aggression.

What becomes of someone who allows herself to be reduced to a means for everyone else’s satisfaction? How does she feel about herself? How do those around her learn how to meet her needs? The Three of Swords talks about one potential ending: heartbreak. Expectations are lowered until they become nothing. Resentment increases until it spoils what is good. Distance becomes the only tool to prevent relationships from further souring. Loneliness.

Remember that you have the power right now to change this outcome.

By stepping out into the joy and happiness offered by the Sun, you’re stepping out into a future that is brighter, full of love, and fairer for everyone. Including you.

Your Spirit Guide cares about you. They want happiness for you. They’ve sent me to deliver this message to you in hopes that it will guide you towards a path of balanced giving and receiving. Someone who works so hard for so many people is full of love and deserves to be loved.

Take this opportunity to evaluate the relationships in your life to ensure that you’re sending the right messages about balanced reciprocity. Evaluate your patterns of behavior to make sure you’re setting yourself up for a future in the Sun by living in the Sun today.

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